You managed to get through the holidays in one piece, but the New Year left you with the feeling that your marriage is over. You are not alone – divorce filings are more prevalent right after the holidays than any other time of year. Now is the time for you and other North Carolina residents preparing for a divorce to organize and start planning.
According to many family law attorneys, the Monday following holiday break is Divorce Day due to an inundation of phone calls and emails about divorce during this time. Why does this happen? There are many reasons: You might have decided to give a last-ditch effort to save your marriage during the holidays only to realize there is no hope. The New Year signals new beginnings for many people, and it might seem like a fresh start to you. Financial and tax considerations might also be good reasons to file before you are well into 2018.
Whatever the reason, you might consider these tips as your divorce resolutions:
- Contact a family law attorney to begin discussing your options.
- Tactfully bring up the topic with your spouse if he or she is not already aware that a divorce is imminent.
- Decide how to break the news to your children, remembering to be age-appropriate and sensitive.
- Take care of your immediate physical and financial needs, such as deciding who moves out and how to split this month’s bills.
- Be kind to yourself. This is a difficult time, and in addition to being upset with your spouse, you might also blame yourself for how things turned out. Take some time to relax and de-stress.
- Ask for help before you begin to feel overwhelmed. See if friends or family might watch the children while you attend to legal matters or would be willing just to get a coffee and talk.
Ending a marriage is never easy any time of the year. Taking things one day at a time and staying organized can help you move on to the next phase of your life.