Generally speaking, custody battles are emotionally draining events that can take a toll on a person’s mental health. During a custody proceeding, parents may feel as if their every move and every word is put under a microscope. However, there are strategies that parents in North Carolina and elsewhere can use to get through a custody dispute.
Try to resolve the matter amicably
It may be possible to come to a custody agreement through private talks or with the help of a mediator. Although you generally don’t have to go through mediation before heading to court, it may be easier and less expensive to try to find common ground with a spouse before going to trial. This is because you likely won’t agree with the terms of any ruling that is crafted by a judge.
Keep the children out of it
While it may be tempting to use your child as a tool to get what you want, it can have a negative long-term impact on your son or daughter. It is important that you don’t say anything negative about your former partner in your child’s presence. As a general rule, your son or daughter wants to be loved and supported by both parents. Therefore, there is no need to prove that you are the better parent.
Ideally, you will try to do what is best for your children when creating a custody or visitation plan with a former partner. This typically means that you will avoid emotional outbursts during settlement talks or while in court. An attorney may be able to represent your interests in court if mediation talks don’t result in an agreement. Your attorney may also attempt to negotiate a settlement prior to a trial.